Ladies suffer too…
Let’s talk about something that hardly ever gets discussed: vaginismus.
What is vaginismus you say?
Well, it is a sexual dysfunction that some women suffer from. It has a strong link to the mind. Various resources describe it as an involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems during sex or an inability to have intercourse. As it is involuntary the woman feels she does not have control over what happens with her muscles. In other words, it puts a lot of stress and strain on women who cannot enjoy sex.
Did you know that vaginismus is said to be the main cause of unconsummated relationships?
The tightness can be so restrictive that the opening to the vagina is ‘closed off’ altogether and the man is unable to insert his penis or the penis may be inserted but pain results. The pain of vaginismus ends when the sexual attempt stops, and usually intercourse must be halted due to pain or discomfort. The tightening is very specifically linked to sexual activity.
So what causes this?
Vaginismus can often have a link to past traumatic events, abuse, a history of discomfort can create negative impacts on vaginismus as can other complex psychopathology. At times, there are no causes to be found. It is vital that a therapist looks at all aspects of woman’s life to assure treatment takes into consideration any psychological issues which may be present, the cause or just contributing factors to the problem.
If you or someone you know are living with this debilitating condition, then contact me now to get help.